The Almighty Dollar

Whats worse than only having weekend visitation and paying killer child support. Its having all that and then your ex announces that your child needs new clothing. Meanwhile she’s going on vacation or driving a new car. Guess how that was paid for.

A buddy of mine recently faced that situation. And for a year he painfully bought those clothes and all the other essentials. At the end of the year, he went into court and asked for a downward deviation from the child support guidelines. He brought his checking account, his receipts and subpoenaed his wife’s checking account and credit card receipts. He got the deviation.

Lets face it – a lot of our ex’s want custody just for those tax free child support dollars. And you can’t dictate how they will spend the money. But every now and then, being reasonable and caring pays off.

Re: My Strategy

I missed this message but wanted to respond to it.

Shep is right in that some women will shoot themselves in the foot. In my case, I agreed to almost everything my wife wanted and was still getting screwed. We went to mediation a second time and my wife continued to stick her foot in her mouth while refusing me time with my daughter.

Finally, I forced the issue by asking a judge to increase the amount of my visitation (which was granted) and to refer the matter to Family Relations for a custody study (which he also granted). That study includes an interview with the child and I knew I would win if it came to that.

After 8 months, my wife is finally talking joint custody. There’s nothing final yet but she clearly know who spends time with my daughter and who doesn’t and she doesn’t want that discussed at Family Relations.