I missed this message but wanted to respond to it.
Shep is right in that some women will shoot themselves in the foot. In my case, I agreed to almost everything my wife wanted and was still getting screwed. We went to mediation a second time and my wife continued to stick her foot in her mouth while refusing me time with my daughter.
Finally, I forced the issue by asking a judge to increase the amount of my visitation (which was granted) and to refer the matter to Family Relations for a custody study (which he also granted). That study includes an interview with the child and I knew I would win if it came to that.
After 8 months, my wife is finally talking joint custody. There’s nothing final yet but she clearly know who spends time with my daughter and who doesn’t and she doesn’t want that discussed at Family Relations.