Every so often, something just falls into your lap. Recently, the Attorney Generals Office had me served, again, for failure to pay child support, “they have been taking 50% of my paycheck for a few years, figure that one out”.
Well, a friend did figure it out. They have been using the wrong dates on the court orders all this time. By their calculations, since 2004, I haven’t paid a thing.
I have gone through being arrested, dragged into court numerous times, and traveled thousands of miles because of their error. You had better believe I’m going to have fun with this one. I hope everyone else is doing fine, and good luck!!
Well – at this point, I am still married and fighting to get divorced without losing my finances, my mind, my two girls and my own life.
But I am at the point where I have not much hope. I am dying financially, I am physically getting to a point of death and I could lose my 2 girls. I am very angry with the courts and the laws of the U.S.
They have made me a second class citizen and if they are not careful there may be a few less people in this world because of it. I have no hope and I am not sure I want to continue fighting. I have no hope.
I’m curious as to what, if any, solution was offered for the problems. Obviously greater honest communication between the parents is necessary, but when emotions are so deeply involved – or the adults believe their emotions are involved – it’s difficult to have any type of communication and honest is a word most humans have a difficult time facing or admitting to themselves, let alone be strong enough to be honest with themselves enough to help their children.
One honest solution is to stop having children without thinking it through. With today’s preventative medicine, there is no possible reason, other than rape, for a woman to become pregnant.
But I also have to wonder if a study had been done on married couples and their children over the same time frame – we know now that a great many women remained married simply because there was no alternative in their minds for them and their children. We know – from honest people – that most couples were not happily married and just what type of effect did that have on the children who watched their mothers – mostly – take Valium and alcohol just to escape the unhappy marriage.
People have some misguided belief that there were “good old days” in the past – but the truth is the days simply weren’t communicated as to how bad they were.